Generally, in the Way of relating with others, if you are offended, you should immediately and straightforwardly tell them this. If you cannot straightforwardly tell them, it is better to not be offended at all…. The heart of a gentleman is like heaven. Although it gives forth the thunder of anger when offended, when that is resolved, the clouds recede and it again becomes like the clear and bright heavens, without even a bit of offense remaining in the heart. This virtue of gentlemen is a strength like the sun.
The Second Year of Ansei, The 21st of November. “Minutes From the Head Lecturer.”